trust

Wat do u mean by trust.....
trust is Mutual trust is a shared belief that you can depend on each other to achieve a common purpose.

Steps in building trust:)
First and foremost is predictability and it is a fundamental factor. Trying new things like going to new places from time to time is also important. And planning surprises is always nice but uniformity and stability are imperative for the maintenance of a relationship.
Then, you must always project your true feelings to your partner. Do not hide what you have in your heart or what is bothering you. Avoid saying you are happy when you actually are not. Your facial expressions and actions will show you are not. It is better you do it!
Both of you have lacking, so you should not make him or her feel that the lacking is disturbing you. Instead, believe in what they are capable of. Or if you want, you can talk about this very calmly, lovingly and attentively to gain their trust.
Avoid keeping secrets. Secrets harm the trust in a relationship and create doubts, frustrations and therefore invite problems. Honesty will consolidate the trust in your relationship. Be open and this will assure your partner that you care.
From time to time it is good to show your partner what you need. This will change the environment by showing you came to them for your need and they are considered worth being by your side. They will trust you more.
Do you agree to everything your partner asks? Well as from now, say no to things you find wrong. Voicing out your opinions will prove to them your participation and consideration. They will respect you more and this will ultimately build or strengthen trust.
To be able to build trust you must remove everything that is preventing it to be built, so put everything clear. This may hurt both of you but remember in the future it won't. It will only bring good. Be ready for the questions and difficulties. And once over, trust is here.


if you listen well people will trust you. "You cannot establish trust if you cannot listen. A conversation is a relationship. Both speaker and listener play a part, each influencing the other. Instead of being a passive recipient, the listener has as much to do in shaping the conversation as the speaker.

i miss u :(

i miss you so very much...
i want to hold your hands and walk a mile..
dont want to be far away in a for a moment..
my life is beautiful cx u r there to make it wonderful..
darling hug me.. for my tears and my lonliness to fly away.
its so lonli without u
it hurts me to knw how i sumtimes become so selfish wen it cums to u
its sendimental knowing its days for u to cum along....
i miss u every moment of the day
and wishing dat u'll be wih me sooon..
i keep me awke just to listen to u
i do want to make it till the end with u
my mornings miss umy evenings seak u
even seconds are too long to miss u
i want to hold ur hands and walk a mile..
dont want to be away from u even for a while

Darling i miss u

The movie Dear john….

i just watched a movie named dear john. it made in to tears so many times. i guess the movie went up to my nerve. a lot of u ppl might hav watched this.. there ws this guy a solder- who found out a girl wen he ws at his holidays.. they bath fallen in love.... its easy to fall in love. n he had to go on war.. the only conection with thm ws through leters.. after 2 yers of disnat realtion he gt a leter after two months.. n da rest u watch... i dnt knw knw y it effected me so much.. i love u. n hope to see u soon.. i just want to be with u. evry moment... im silly to cry over a romantic movie:p watchin dis movie made me realli miss this special person a lot.. da moments we had. da great times we had.. n most of all i missed ur precence.. "ive missed u so much.. it hurts..." dats so true.. one of the very best movie after the notebook

love u forever

Each time I close my eyes. I think about u darling. How much do I wish to be with u. wishing and raying dat we bth cud live a life soon.. dnt want ever to leave u. wen I look in to ur eyes.. I see dis new world.. new life. Moments of happiness n joyes. Wud b there no mater wt. I have met a very special person 3 years back. I knw sumthings r changing. Its hard to survive enuf in distant ones. All I want is to in ur arms forever and alwys. U care abt me and u love me lot. Even dho sumtimes its hard for u admit how much I mean to u. not really evry one understands me. But u do. Da only one who cn understand me. Never wanting me to walk alone ny where dho u r far away always at my side..unlike a lot of guys u seems v patient.more than the patience I hav. Cheering me up in v hard situations.. give me da best opinions and options. More close thn my best friend. Can shre u with ny thing I want. Helpin in evry way u cn to support me in my carier.. I can be my self wen im with u. u mean a lot to me. Ppl go through lot of stages in life.. I guess we bth r goin sum stage. As for human beings we jus hav to tolerate da hard ship n face the truth. This is life. Which hav many obstacles in it dat r hard to run. i do want to write. Bt I jus cant express my feelings.. its really hard dho I try to. Deep down inside me….i LOVE You . forevever wil love u

....reason....

well this is one of my fav songs, this song had been part of me for a long time.. dnt knw y it relates to me so much.. miss ur presence. bt ny wys it ws nice dat u made me happy in ife:)
...Within you I lose myself...Without you I find myselfWanting to be lost again...


I'm not a perfect person
As many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear

I've found a resaon for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]

I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you

….Betrayal…

Betrayal.. its something u here always. Betrayals happen in a lot of different relationships. Between friends, lovers, parents. . It is never an easy thing. Some people face it differently. and some people can get over it differently. For some people it’s a very easy thing to betray people. And for some people they never have the guts to betray some one. Mostly that happens to girls. Some victims of betrayals suffer a lot in their life. Some people tends to get suicide when their partner betrays them. When sum people do it they don’t have any thought in their hearts. Most people want to believe that if da person is betrayed he/she wouldn’t b happy any more. O neither they wont get da love they had… wel its not true. It sure does take a long time to heal a broken heart. It takes months.. years… n for some people it takes whole thir life to get over da sadness… da only thing to keep in mind is dat u r nt alone in dis world. N dat their r other people dat cn make u happy always. U dnt hav to depend on others. Don’t loose self motivation. And don’t thinks it’s the end of the world. Jus go on through life. Life is never an esy thing.


Some of the Reasons why people betray..
• Just for fun.
• Trying to do what others do
• Got what they wont
• Cant find any other reason to get over
• Having another affair with sum one else
• simply the nature of guy or gal

• they dnt luv the person they r with or the person they r with doesnt satisfy their wants
• Long distance.
• Couldt take it any more.
• Just wont to break so many peoples heart n their r lot more…
• Da best thing is to get over it soon.. as fast as u can.
• da only thing to keep in mind is dat u r nt alone in dis world. N dat their r other people dat cn make u happy always. U dnt hav to depend on others. Don’t loose self motivation. And don’t thinks it’s the end of the world. Jus go on through life. Life is never an easy thing.:

Life becomes a Garden

i have a little garden...... no one can see it but my self, when my life is up all the flowers bloom... as if its spring time, but when things go down all the wilt and wash away like autumn keeping a dead bush with no leaves or flowers on it... thats how life is as i describe it... but i always hope for a greeny and colorful bushes in my garden which i call life... where colorful butterflies and rainbows would be there.... some times we don't know what to do in our life, weather we should be sad, frustrated, happy, angry or bored of it. i don't want to accept the changes around it, cos i like my garden the way i created it i don't want some one else to change it for me, i don't need a change. i created it with all those colors cos i like the colors i don't need some one to come and paint them in Black and White. if i left it the way it was and never cared and didn't make some choices that i have made through the time my garden now would have been withered and dried up from the roots till the tip of the branches... but i never want that to happen cos its my garden to look after and no one else would take care of it unless i care for it i might get help but i cannot depend on some one to make it all better for me ill still have to make those choices and ill have learn my way through them...

This is where life happens and its where i make my choices